Internal Locus of Control

I am someone who is a firm believer of Self Change and making Change based on my own control. I am believe that i have the fundamental to achieve what i set out in life. The one obstacle is me, myself. I don`t believe in Fate, luck.

Some Literature review that, having internal locus of control could facilitates self confidence because she/he perceives they could control the situation well enough and perform well. But most of the time, such theories, does not set a guideline on the type of people they had research on.

If you are born poor, had to fend for yourself since young and not to mention poor family upbringing. does that theory still applies to you? or did any miraculous events happen to them that make them suddenly become self confidence? I am not saying that kids born in a not so good family does not have the mentality. Or all rich kids with good up-bringing would be better off.

My point is, it is not the family up bringing, social making or even peers pressure, But oneself. haven`t you always hear about someone, mentioning how good looking you are, envy you are so skinny, fit, well educated, good job, good pay, etc etc etc... while they whined about how bad is their job, poor health (FAT), not enough money (when you know that they are probably better pay than you), etc etc... even if all that is truth, this is no fate, luck even destiny that brought these to us.

but only thru hard work, if every man believes in 4D and TOTO , every woman believes in marrying a rich man, the world would probably in better shape than now (well that is a different topic altogether) anyway, my point is, take charge of your own fate, luck or destiny for your own sake. It is probably more rewarding that having "GOD" to tell you if you are walking the correct path or not. Most of the time, we walked into the unknown, many time fall and some never could get up. but at least, it is our choice, everyone got a choice but only with different outcome.

like me, i believe in having responsibility for any events in my life, not because God's want me so. therefore, here i am, mugging for almost 2 days, struggling but glad that i am making a different for myself.

Backstabbing

Literature reviewed said that it is a ubiquitous (existing everywhere) back stabbing required you to be a nice person but all the while planning to someone demise (Death). most common strategies is to initial a conversation with your boss and complaint or hint to him about weakness on her rival.

most of the time, encouraging negative remarks or careful mental notes and passed it to the boss. most of the time, usual whining at lunch, peer talking, chit chatting and sometime emails could be the sources of back stabbing!

well, If you could not handle the heat, which i am likely can`t. why not let her/him do it. take over the post and let see if it get better.